Behind all sarcasm is some truth. People often say things that sometimes can be misleading. When a father or mother tells their child "I can't wait till the day you leave", this often times is not the case. "Contrary to all we hear about women and their empty-nest problems, it may be the fathers more often than mothers who are pained by the children's imminent or actual departure".(Rubin, ) Due to the fathers social obligations he is the one who truly misses out his children's upbringing and growth. Lillian Rubin, points out how the father is often times the one who mourns the most when his son or daughter leaves the house. The second question being answered is different when looking at the male and female perspective of a child leaving the home. For the father it is more of a loss.